It’s common to assume that friends from childhood will play a significant role in your adult life.

Occasionally that doesn’t occur. Find out why this individual wentno communication with her former friends.

Am I the asshole for blocking and deleting my childhood “friends”?

I had two close friends, “Sarah” and “Chloe” – not their actual names. We formed a close group during our childhood.

At the age of 17, my mother died from an illness. It was incredibly heartbreaking.

There was further destruction on the way.

At that time—my last year of school and the years right after—Sarah and Chloe basically vanished. They headed to college and left me to deal with my deep sorrow by myself.

I felt entirely forsaken when I needed their support the most.

Even though they treated me that way, I was always there for them: When Sarah’s mother passed away a few years back, I put everything aside.

I was immediately by her side, providing ongoing emotional assistance, actively listening, and doing everything I could to help. I offered her the support I had hoped to receive from her.

As Chloe experienced multiple challenging breakups and other personal losses, I was the one she could always rely on to listen. I consistently found time for her.

I truly thought our connection was solid, even though I held the pain from their previous leaving.

Then an event altered her understanding.

Chloe recently tied the knot. She selected all of our common friends to be her bridesmaids, but not me. When I inquired about this, she offered a feeble explanation, claiming she “didn’t want an odd number” on the groom’s side.

This justification seemed like a blow to the face and brought back all the previous hurt of feeling excluded when they went to college, especially considering how much support I had provided her.

I truthfully informed Chloe that I would not be going to the wedding.

I mentioned that after years of feeling left out and dealing with the profound pain of their abandonment when my mom passed away, this last act of exclusion was the “final blow,” and I wasn’t able to celebrate with her.

I also contacted Sarah to share how deeply I was wounded by Chloe’s behavior and their previous abandonment. I described the years of emotional suffering I had endured.

However, the broken friendship did not mend.

Sarah did not respond to my lengthy message that described my suffering. Several weeks later, the only thing I got from her was a single-line message on my birthday: “Happy birthday.”

That was all. No apology, no recognition of my emotions.

Chloe responded to me, basically expressing her disappointment over my choice not to go to her wedding, but she mentioned she was “drawing a line” under the entire matter and continuing forward.

Both replies seemed to completely disregard more than ten years of pain and my efforts in our friendship.

I understood that I had reached my limit. I was exhausted from giving far more than I got in return and feeling like an afterthought. I blocked both Sarah and Chloe on all platforms.

Some common friends believe I was too strict and that I should have simply “moved on” from the bridesmaid situation and let bygones be bygones, or that I responded too strongly to their last messages.

Am I the jerk for blocking both friends after enduring years of emotional pain from their abandonment, constant exclusion, and no responsibility taken when I finally expressed my feelings?

Here is what people are saying.

I would!

I agree. They seem like undesirable individuals.

What? I felt empathy at 17. It’s not very uncommon.

I wonder what the actual reason was. I mean, the true explanation.

I appreciate the straightforward nature of this.

Good riddance.

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